If you ask ten people what humiliation is, you will get a range of answers from verbally assaulting or degrading someone, to placing someone in an embarrassing situation. If we are talking about BDSM specifically, I would agree. However, if you ask the same people if they have every been humiliated they will each have a story to tell about their own personal moment of humiliation.
There are many types of humiliation. We have all been humiliated in one way or another at some time in our lives. The big question is: How did it make you feel? Some things that humiliate us are personal, others are societal. By that I mean some things are humiliating because of our own self-image or perception of what others think, and some are created through social or moral taboos. Such things as public exposure, depending on who might witness it, can be both embarrassing and exciting at the same time as well as being considered immoral. In other words, it is considered in bad taste to expose one's self to a minor (not to mention being against the law). However, exposing one's self at a nude beach might be humiliating to one while blase to another. Therefore, humiliation is a personal thing.
Let's talk about humiliation as it relates to public exposure. If we are going to practice humiliation as a form of BDSM play, then we need to understand it's complexities. For example, if you want your submissive to get the most from a humiliating experience, then you need to know exactly how the submissive feels about the situation in which you wish to place them.
The fact is, public exposure of this type is one of the most common forms of humiliating excitement found in submissive's. Add the 'forced' to do it by a Dominant to the equation and you add to the excitement as well.
Here is a brief list of some of the more humiliating things you might want to try with your submissive:
- Walking the local mall with your submissive in collar and leash.
- Going to dinner and feeding your submissive from your plate.
- Making your submissive choose a toy from your favorite Fetish shop.
- Making your submissive give their underwear (panties) to a waiter or waitress.
- Making your submissive fondle themselves (or even masturbate) in a public setting.
- Make your male submissive wear women's underwear to work.
The list goes on, just use your imagination and a bit of discretion. I'm sure you can find some excellent ways to humiliate your submissive without getting arrested.